Hi there,

I’m Louise,

I am unique in how I work, I am real, down to earth, straight talking and I don’t wear suits or pearls & twin sets.

I’d just like to start by saying how humbled I am you have chosen to reach out and research the help that is out there to support you on your journey. From personal lived experience, I know how hard the first step of finding someone to trust and work with is. Whether you are new to finding a therapist, or had counselling before, you are very welcome here.

I’ve lived a sober life for a few years now, I have quite a few 24 hours under my belt. I am diagnosed ADHD. I have lived experience of trauma and am a survivor. I have had a colourful journey and experienced many things that have driven my career in counselling to support others, to create a safe space in the same way that space was created for me.

The power of talking and being with someone who gets it, in my experience is invaluable and the first step to healing and getting to a different place. The place you choose, and if you don't know what that looks like, its ok, we can find out together.

I’m very down to earth. I care deeply about what I do. I trained for 4 years, where I did both my Degree and diploma concurrently and continue to be dedicated to learning as much as I can to help others on their paths. I’m an avid reader and leaner and continue to learn new skills because I have a passion for what I do. A true fire in my belly to help those struggling.

I truly believe people have the solutions inside of them and my job is be alongside, meet them wherever they are at, and help them get there.

Not every counsellor is for every client. Counselling may not have felt right for you before, you might, like old me, have thought it a load of rubbish, sitting in awkward silence not knowing what on earth you were supposed to be saying. It may not have been the right therapist or the right time, rather than counselling not being for you. I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I realised counselling wasn’t a painful & expensive waste of time, I just hadn’t realised it could be done differently, and, who knew?!!! I could choose someone who I felt got me & was my person. Nobody had ever told me that. So, When I found someone who offered me all that, it was truly life changing.  Its why its true when I say that I do honestly realise the importance of the counselling relationship. I advocate & encourage finding your person. Its why I do things differently, or what I believe is just the way they should be done. Unique to you and what you meed. I meet you where you are at and we work forward from there.

So I get it. I offer my whole real human self, kindness and empathy. I have a wicked sense of humour, I am totally invested in being alongside those I work with and supporting them on their counselling journey to living a life without such traumatic pain.

Counselling can feel terrifying scary and emotional, and I am someone who cares passionately and deeply about my clients and the work we do & tries to make it the most comfortable and accessible that I can. I cant promise to erase anything, it, I dont have a magic wand or Crystal ball, but i do have a huge heart, a warrior like desire to help, big sofas, haribo and sometimes even a chocolate biscuit or two in the tin. I am very human & real and will chat away with you, if thats what you need to feel at ease, and help to make you feel as comfortable as possible. I will hold that space for the incredible humans I work alongside, at what is often a really challenging time, when they choose to come to me for help.

I am innovative, a little different, well a lot different than what is often considered traditional therapy, and I offer creative ways to explore your needs. Its not about being an art expert or even making art, far from it actually. Working creatively is just a different way of doing things. It can mean talking about what you are watching on Netflix, current affairs, your hobbies, music you like, books you have read, or just about anything. We can also explore in other ways, like working with sand, therapy cards, collage, Russian dolls, pens, paper and paint, because sometimes words are not enough. I’ll always offer it & you never have to do anything.

I have a seven acre small holding in Brenchley, Tonbridge,  Tunbridge Wells  which my counselling room is located, and it is used solely for my work. I offer face to face support there, and is a beautiful idyllic Kent countryside setting. I also offer online via zoom, facetime or whats app video. Also walk and talk therapy at the hub and limited availability at various places of interest such as National Trust, Bewl, and local beauty spots.

I want to make counselling welcomingly unique and accessible for everyone.

With a robust 20-year background in emergency services, a fully qualified counsellor my extensive lived and professional experience includes but isn’t limited to counselling those wishing to explore their relationship with alcohol,  addiction or  living with addiction whether that be a partner, loved one or friend. Mental health struggles. ADHD, sexual abuse, self esteem, trauma, domestic violence, inner child exploration, relationship navigation, anxiety and shame.

I truly believe that when choosing a therapist, finding “your person” is one of the most important factors. Not every counsellor is for every client. Its why I will always ask a client what their gut says, do they think they could work with me? If I don’t feel that I am the best fit, i’ll also let you know. I have a fantastic network and will always support someone if they want help in looking for someone and let you know if I think there is someone better suited to your needs. I am that passionate about it, because starting off with someone you feel gets you and is on your wave length or you are drawn to in some way, makes what can be a challenging time, a whole lot easier.   If you would like a free no obligation down to earth, laid back introductory call, where you can ask any questions, get to me a bit, discuss your needs, and have a chat to get a sense of whether we feel we are the right fit for each other, then please email me at louisemalyancounselling@gmail.com or use the contact me button.

I look forward to hearing from you and wish you all the very best on your journey

Louise x

“Helping you find your sanity, in the middle of life’s circus”

“When life is a shit storm, i’ll hold the umbrella over you”

“The definition of insanity they say, is to keep doing the same thing over and over and getting the same result. So let’s do something different”

“it’s shit, I know it’s shit, i won’t tell you it isnt shit - because it really is shit. So let’s look at the shit together”

“I’m a bit skeptical about wrong/bad choices.…….Was it a bad choice? Or was it the best choice at the time, with the tools you had?”

“Let’s do this together, you don’t have to struggle alone any more”

“Counselling - turning life’s lemons into lemonade, one session at a time”

“Therapy - a place that’s perfectly ok to be a beautiful mess”

“No judgment, just validation”

“Shame thrives in silence. It loses its power when we share it. Let’s beat it together”