children & Young people

What if your child isn’t being difficult?

What if they’re doing the very best they can with a nervous system that’s overwhelmed?

As a parent, you know your child better than anyone.

You know when something isn’t right.

Maybe school has become a daily battle.

Maybe they come home exhausted from pretending they’re okay.

Maybe they’re anxious, withdrawn, angry, overwhelmed or constantly masking who they really are.

Maybe they’re losing confidence, struggling with friendships, feeling like they don’t fit in or telling you they hate school.

Perhaps they’re refusing to go altogether.

Whatever you’re experiencing, please know this…

You’re not alone.

And neither are they.

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I don’t see a “problem child.”

I see a young person trying to make sense of a world that feels too loud, too busy, too demanding or simply too much.

I don’t ask…

“What’s wrong with you?”

I ask…

“What’s happened?”

“What are you carrying?”

“What do you need?”

Because behaviour is communication.

Behind every angry outburst…

Every shutdown…

Every panic attack…

Every school struggle…

Every “I don’t care”…

There’s usually a young person who desperately needs someone to understand.

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Does this sound familiar?

Your young person may be experiencing…

•⁠ ⁠Anxiety or panic

•⁠ ⁠Low confidence or self-esteem

•⁠ ⁠Friendship difficulties

•⁠ ⁠Feeling different or like they don’t belong

•⁠ ⁠ADHD or autistic traits

•⁠ ⁠Sensory overwhelm

•⁠ ⁠Masking all day then falling apart at home

•⁠ ⁠Big emotions

•⁠ ⁠Emotional outbursts

•⁠ ⁠Difficulty regulating emotions

•⁠ ⁠School anxiety

•⁠ ⁠Struggling to attend school

•⁠ ⁠Feeling misunderstood

•⁠ ⁠Trauma

•⁠ ⁠Bereavement

•⁠ ⁠Bullying

•⁠ ⁠Family changes

•⁠ ⁠Self-harm

•⁠ ⁠Feeling “too much” or “not enough”

Or maybe they simply tell you…

“I don’t know what’s wrong.”

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What school can sometimes feel like…

Imagine spending six hours every day…

Trying to sit still when your body needs movement.

Trying to concentrate while your brain is racing.

Being surrounded by constant noise.

Bright lights.

Scratchy uniforms.

Hundreds of people.

Changing classrooms.

Social pressures.

Fear of getting things wrong.

Feeling different.

Trying to fit in.

Trying not to be noticed.

Trying to remember homework.

Trying to revise in a way that simply doesn’t work for your brain.

Trying to keep everyone happy.

Then coming home completely exhausted.

Some young people aren’t refusing school.

They’re surviving it.

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Individual Counselling (Ages 3½+)

Every young person is different.

That’s why I don’t expect every child to sit on a sofa and talk.

Many don’t.

And that’s absolutely okay.

Sessions are built around your child.

That might include…

🌱 Creativity

🎨 Art

🌳 Nature

🐶 Arthur and Peggy

🐱 Steve the cat

🌼 Gardening

🚶 Walk and talk

🪴 Growing vegetables

🧸 Play

🃏 Creative cards

🏖️ Sand tray

📖 Stories

🧱 Lego

✏️ Drawing

☕ Hot chocolate

Or simply sitting quietly until they feel safe.

There is no pressure.

No judgement.

No expectation.

Just relationship first.

Because when young people feel safe…

They begin to open up naturally.

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Introducing…

🌱 Wildfire Growing Space 🌱

Growing • Creating • Belonging

For young people aged 11-15

This isn’t school.

It isn’t another classroom.

It isn’t somewhere they’ll be expected to perform.

It’s somewhere they can breathe.

Together we’ll…

🌱 Grow fruit and vegetables

🎨 Create

🐶 Spend time with Arthur and Peggy

🌳 Explore nature

💬 Connect with others (if and when they want to)

🌼 Learn emotional wellbeing without it feeling like therapy

😊 Build confidence

🌻 Discover strengths

🪴 Celebrate small wins

Most importantly…

They’ll experience something many young people tell me they’ve been missing.

Belonging.

No pressure to talk.

No labels.

No pretending.

Just a safe place to be themselves.

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Why parents tell me I’m different

Because I don’t expect your child to fit into therapy.

I adapt therapy to fit your child.

I understand ADHD.

I understand trauma.

I understand masking.

I understand what it’s like to feel different.

I understand addiction in families.

I understand how exhausting life can become.

Most of all…

I genuinely care.

Your child isn’t another appointment in my diary.

They’re a young person with a story.

And I want to understand it.

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For Parents…

I know this is hard.

You’re probably exhausted.

You’re trying to hold everything together whilst worrying constantly about your child.

You may be juggling meetings, school calls, CAMHS referrals, sleepless nights, guilt, frustration and heartbreak.

Perhaps you’re wondering if you’re getting it wrong.

Please hear this.

You don’t have to have all the answers.

Sometimes you just need someone to walk alongside your family.

That’s where I come in.

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Let’s start with a conversation

If you’ve read this page and thought…

“That’s my child.”

I’d love to speak with you.

There’s no pressure and no obligation.

Just a friendly conversation about what’s been happening and whether I’m the right person to help.

Because finding the right therapist matters.

And if I’m not the right fit, I’ll do my best to help you find someone who is.

📍 Brenchley, Kent

💻 Online & Face-to-Face

🌱 Individual Counselling (Ages 3½+)

🌻 Wildfire Growing Space (Ages 11–15)

📧 LouiseMalyanCounselling@gmail.com

📞 07540 843727

Every young person deserves at least one adult who is curious enough to understand them before trying to change them.

I’d be honoured to be that person.